Stress your best: everyday mindset strategies to avoid crashing and burning
In sport the suck it up and push the pedal harder (even when your engine is empty) mentality is thankfully becoming frowned upon. We now know scientifically overtraining is dangerous, not only physically but mentally too. This does not mean that it is bad to creep near “E.” Actually, if done correctly, appropriate stress with rest, can make one stronger. But this type of “toe-to the line training” takes guidance and expertise. Fortunately, in the sports world, coaches, trainers, and athletes are constantly gaining knowledge and providing feedback on resurgence in training. These recovery methods, however, are not researched and being promoted enough in other industries of living.
Take for example some associates of mine, working the front-line during the initial Covid outbreak. When I have asked them, “How are you,” the common response has been “as fine as can be for now.” Because, similar to the marathon runner that can run over 26 miles looking fine, even the best of the best in all pressure filled activities, have suffered a sudden collapse. It is one thing to look fine through the race, but it is a totally different story to go on with your daily activities “as normal” after crossing the finish-line. We are starting to discover more often that life is a lot like sport -- if you are not taught that hitting highs, require a delicate handling of the lows – the lows end-up taking over.
Even though the importance of mind-body recovery is becoming slowly exposed to the general population, clarity needs to be expedited so everyone understands that if the engine that feeds your entire system needs either rest or tuning – it is nothing to be ashamed of – and in fact, should be revered.
Discussions like that of …. about sustaining mental health and awareness and acceptance of our capacities, are so important for our future generations to hear.
…. We don't talk about it enough, in the right way. And that is a mistake.”
To make a positive shift in the rates of depression, anxiety, and suicide, we need to keep a steady message going that mental care/recovery methods are integral human health. I feel it is important to continue to share the ideas from sport/performance psychology. Here are a few of my athlete’s favorite tips. These can help your family through the highs and lows of training and any other pertinent, or stressful situations:
Educate yourself on mental exercise and maintain a mental exercise plan as you would physical exercise.
Know that deep breathing is not enough, it has to be associated with thoughts that make you relaxed and feel more in control; this takes practice. Aspire suggestions at least 4xs per day.
Do as many things outside as possible.
Set goals, and place emphasis on reaching the little ones that lead to the big ones.
Plan your month but be flexible within your days.
Schedule time with friends and keep family relationships full of funny moments.
Seek unconditional love but conditional work.
Remember: deadlines, dates, and things that require you to “show-up” are all good things.
Understand that Fear is a protective warning system and can also be incorrect.
Become an expert at combining gut-instinct and logic. Find a professional/coach that you trust to provide insight on anything that causes you to remain frozen in a state of uncertainty.
Do not waste time getting help, especially for something that is meaningful to you. Help can only make you better.
Guidelines are good. Even if they are used as a template to create your own.
As cliché as it sounds, life is a performance. Whether you are on stage, up to bat, getting ready to mount the beam, in the ER, or coaching youth athletes – you are performing your unique abilities – but without intermissions the show ends early. Intervals of physical rest and planning appropriate methods of mental recovery are a necessity.
When looking for a sustainable mental health plan remember, to each their own mind and body. In other words, own it, personalize it, and enjoy it. You may recover with a walk, while someone else grabs a book, heads for a swim, or hits the pillow. It is always helpful to have guidance in creating your plan.
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